Changes

Seeing one by one of my good girlfriends getting involved in a relationship made me realized that every each person need to have somebody to spent the life with. No one is excepted. For the first time in my life, when a good friend getting a boyfriend (in high school) i am truly happy for her, really. But now, every each other friend getting into a serious relationship, made me understand that, at the end of the day, partner is definitely more important than good friend or maybe best friend. Now, a boyfriend might means the incoming lifetime partner so now it is pretty obvious that no good friend can be your partner, bisexual is exceptional. I don't want to sound emo, but the reality is I am actually a little sad every each time seeing my friends jump onto the relationship boat. I am sad, because the quality time together are going to be transferred to become their own time. Every each outings might involve her new partner. No more sudden outings because she will have another commitment. No more weekend gathering, because the family of the other side needs commitment too.

At this moment, getting into a relationship means introducing a new person into the life. It is no longer to be bounded on weekend dates (like during school time) anymore. It is all in the sequence of knowing each other, exchange of feelings, holding hands, hugs and kisses and intimate sex. And what is the most convenient things to sustain a relationship, moving in together aka cohabitation of course! Nothing is more convenient than living together to wake up in the same bed, have the same breakfast and go to work together, come back to work to have dinner together and the cycle of togetherness repeat itself. The point is, along these cycles, the good friend have no chance to slip in and hence slowly becoming a history.

So i guess this is a normal process of modern life. Some process that i need to accept that one day we will be so busy with "our own" life that we have no time for the good friend. What do you think? Do you think you lose your good friends when you get into a relationship? Or do you lose a friend when someone close to you get into a relationship? At this point of my life, i really hope that all of my attached girlfriends lead a happily ever after with their Mr. Right. You all will never be forgotten. Blessings.